It seems we are related :) how are you? I don't know any of my relatives so I'm trying to find them.
I have DNA kits at three different testing companies. I manage a number of family DNA kits. How do you think I should respond?
- Use an interest catching Subject like “Gedmatch - Autosomal DNA Match - Raymond Smith”, not “Hello Cousin” or “We Match!” If you use one of the latter, it’s may go to the spam folder or be low priority to read and respond.
- Identify the person(s) you are trying to connect with or about. In the case of DNA matching, do not assume the email is going to the tested person. I manage many kits for others and need to know who you want to know about. I also manage trees for other folks, so let me know what tree the person you are inquiring about is found in. Where you found the tree would be helpful as well. All my trees are not on Ancestry.
- Please tell me the name of the tree and where you found it, along with the name of the person in question.
- Include the testing company, kit numbers and/or names for DNA matching.
- Give me a brief description of what you are working on/looking for in contact requests. Example: “My mother's family were German Lutherans. My mother was born in Volhynia, and the family was there from the mid to late 1800s up until 1941 when the Russians expelled the Germans. I am looking for family connections.”
- A pedigree chart in pdf format would be helpful as well as link to an on-line tree.
- Be courteous and gracious. Say please and thank you. I am responding in my precious spare time.
- Avoid sending messages with misspellings, incorrect grammar or abbreviated texting language. If you are sloppy in your communications, what is your research like? There are instances of incorrect grammar when I get emails from non-English speaking folks or through a translation engine, which is understandable.